What Is The Abortion Pill?

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When you take an aspirin, your headache usually goes away immediately. Do you think abortions are that easy? “Take a pill and your pregnancy worries are gone,” some might think.  Having an abortion, any type of abortion, is not an easy choice. Abortions are a serious medical decision. Although “abortion pill” is the popular name given to this procedure by an abortion clinic, it is not one pill, and it is not as easy as they would like you to believe. Get the facts before you choose the abortion pill method.

The Abortion Pill Procedure

There are two types of abortion:  medication and surgical. The abortion pill method is known as a chemical or medication abortion. Sometimes it is also called RU 486. You are only eligible for a medication abortion if you are less than ten weeks into your pregnancy. Thereafter, you would need to have a surgical abortion.

As mentioned, the chemical abortion is actually a two-step or two-drug process rather than just taking one pill. Before the abortionist can begin the procedure, you need to have an ultrasound. The ultrasound determines how far along you are in your pregnancy, and if your pregnancy is viable. A viable pregnancy means a heartbeat is detected and the fetus is growing inside the uterus.

The Drugs You Take for a Medication Abortion

Once you have an ultrasound and determine your pregnancy is less than ten weeks, you can start the abortion pill procedure. To begin, you take the first drug, mifepristone (Mifeprex®). This drug blocks the production of the hormone progesterone which is commonly referred to as the “pregnancy hormone.” Progesterone helps the fertilized egg implant on the wall of your uterus. Mifepristone causes the lining of the uterus to thin and prevents the fetus from staying implanted.

You are given the second drug, Misoprostol, to take hours or even days after the Mifepristone. Misoprostol causes your uterus to contract to expel the fetus.

Ordering the abortion pill online

It is currently illegal to purchase Mifeprex over the internet. According to the US Food & Drug Administration (FDA), the drug is only available legally to individual health care facilities, including clinics, medical offices, and hospitals. It is not available in retail pharmacies.

While searching online, you may come across a site that claims to sell and deliver real abortion pill medication. Known as “self-managed abortions,” these pharmaceutical sites are often located in other countries. Lawmakers recently discovered some pills were prescribed by an abortionist in the Netherlands and filled by a pharmacy in India. 

If you tried to purchase the abortion pill online, you would not be able to verify the chemicals in the drugs. Since these online drugs are not required to comply with FDA safeguards, you have no assurance of their quality. Oversight by the FDA assures the manufacturing process and the facility meet the necessary standards.

Because it is dangerous and highly regulated, Mifeprex is only distributed through a restricted program called MIFEPREX REMS. In fact, the warning label even notes, “WARNING: SERIOUS AND SOMETIMES FATAL INFECTIONS OR BLEEDING.”

Risks and Side Effects of the Abortion Pill

It is vital to be under a doctor’s supervision when considering any abortion. Ask beforehand what the abortion doctor’s qualifications are and if they can help you in case of complications. Make sure they know your health history, too.

The Mayo Clinic lists these as potential risks of the abortion pill method:

  • Abdominal cramping as you pass the fetus.
  • Heavy bleeding with blood clots also occurs due to passing the fetus.
  • A fever, which could indicate a pelvic infection, requiring an exam by a medical professional.
  • Occasionally, an incompletel abortion, requiring a follow-up procedure.  

In addition, Healthline states, “Septic shock often occurs after an abortion. It strikes when your body gets a bacterial infection.” You should seek medical attention as soon as possible if you experience a rapid heart rate, shaking chills, and difficult, rapid breathing.

Other Side Effects

An abortion has emotional as well as physical side effects. Often, women describe feelings of guilt, shame, and sadness after an abortion. Some women become very depressed and begin to self-medicate with drugs or alcohol. In certain cases, post-abortion feelings can last a lifetime, so counseling is extremely important to work through your emotions.  Some researchers downplay the emotional and mental risks, or suggest that they only affect women prone to emotional and mental illness anyway, showing a stigmatizing attitude toward those most sensitive.

Where to Begin

At BsideU for Life, we can help you understand the abortion pill procedure or other abortion methods fully. In addition, we can confirm your pregnancy with confidential, no-cost pregnancy testing. If you receive a positive result, we can also perform a no-cost ultrasound to tell you how far along your pregnancy is.

We truly care about you. Schedule your appointment today. Together, we will sit down and discuss your life situation and all your options for your unplanned pregnancy. You do not have to do this alone.

If you’ve taken the abortion pill and regret your decision, it may not be too late to reverse your abortion! Please call this hotline number immediately for more information and assistance: (877) 558-0333

Is Planned Parenthood Free?  

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For some women, a positive pregnancy test brings about feelings of fear, worry, and stress, especially when finances are already a source of anxiety. Diapers, food, clothes, etc. — it’s no secret that parenting comes with expenses. However, what often goes undiscussed are the expenses that come with terminating a pregnancy. 

Your friends at BsideU for Life are here to prove you’re not alone in this new season, give you the facts about your pregnancy options, and dispel some important abortion myths. 

Is Planned Parenthood Free? 

As you consider your pregnancy options, understanding the potential costs is important. Abortion is a serious medical procedure and is often not covered by insurance plans, and unfortunately, you’ll likely find that many abortion clinics are seeking financial gain based on the choices you make for your body. 

Because Planned Parenthood is a nonprofit organization, many women assume they will find free services when they walk in their clinic doors; however, you might be surprised to find that healthcare at Planned Parenthood doesn’t come cheap. 

While it depends on the abortion procedure you choose, what part of the country you live in, and market competition in general, you can expect to pay anywhere from $500 for medical abortions and first-trimester surgical abortions to upwards of $3000 for second trimester or late-term abortions. You can also expect to pay additional fees for some other testing services or medication related to your pregnancy and abortion. 

Free Pregnancy Testing

While most abortion clinics like Planned Parenthood won’t offer free reproductive healthcare, you still have options!

Before you schedule an appointment for an abortion, it’s important to confirm your pregnancy with a certified lab-quality test. Even if you’ve taken an at-home pregnancy test, a lab-quality test will confirm you still have detectable levels of pregnancy hormones, indicating that you’re still pregnant. While a pregnancy test might be added to your bill at an abortion clinic, you can find free and confidential pregnancy testing at your local pregnancy centers, like BsideU for Life.

Free Ultrasound

You might be wondering why you would want to get an ultrasound if you’re planning on getting an abortion. However, ultrasounds are not just for women who plan to parent. These scans are actually an important part of the abortion process as they will help you identify the age, location, and viability of the pregnancy. 

These facts will not only give you insight into which abortion procedure you’re eligible for, but they will also help you identify any underlying conditions you might have that would increase the dangers of abortion. 

An ultrasound is required under Kentucky law prior to having an abortion as part of the patient’s informed consent rights.   If you obtain a free ultrasound from BsideU, it cannot be substituted for the one that an abortion clinic must provide by law.  

Schedule your free appointment today! 

The staff here at BsideU for Life is passionate about providing women with the resources and facts related to their pregnancy options.

When you walk inside our clinic, you’ll find pregnancy testing and ultrasound services, pregnancy options counseling, and physical and educational resources if you decide parenting or adoption are right for you. Most importantly, we’re here to help you confidently make the best decision for yourself and your future! 

Will I Pass My STD to My Baby? 

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Planned or unplanned, pregnancy can bring about a million questions, anxieties, and worries. If you think you might be pregnant and have an STD, you’re likely wondering if your condition will have any impact on your pregnancy, your options, and — if you chose to give birth — your baby.

Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) or sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are caused by microbes (bacteria or viruses) that are  transferred through sexual contact through the mouth, anus, or genitals. If you or a sexual partner have had sexual contact with more than one person, at any point, you run the risk of contracting an STD.

While it’s always important to be aware of the risks related to STDs, this is especially necessary if you’re pregnant or think you might be pregnant.

Pregnancy and STDs — Will I pass my STD to my baby?

In short, yes — some STDs can be passed from the mother to the baby during pregnancy, birth, and even after the child is born.

STDs that can be passed to your child include the following:

– Chlamydia
– Genital herpes
– Gonorrhea
– Hepatitis B
– HPV/genital warts
– Syphilis

– Trichomonas Vaginalis

What happens if I pass an STD to my baby?

Having an STD while you’re pregnant can cause complications in your pregnancy and can seriously impact your baby’s future health and wellbeing.  Depending on the infection, some potential impacts on children born to mothers with STDs might include:

– Premature birth
– Blindness

– Deafness

– Eye infections

– Pneumonia
– Meningitis

– Liver disease

– Blood infection

– Brain damage

– Lack of coordination 

– Acute hepatitis

– Stillbirth

I think I’m pregnant and have an STD — What do I do?

Whether you think you’re pregnant or not, if you’re sexually active, it’s important to be tested for STDs on a routine basis. Because these diseases can lay dormant, it’s wise to be tested even if you don’t have any symptoms.

At BsideU For Life, we provide free STI testing and treatment at no cost to our pregnancy test clients, along with our other free services, including options counseling and ultrasounds. 

Abortion and STDs — What to Know


If there’s a chance you might have an STD and are considering an abortion, you’ll still need to be tested before moving forward with your abortion appointment. In fact, getting an abortion while carrying an untreated STD can be extremely dangerous. Surgical abortions can cause untreated diseases to spread throughout your body, which can result in sepsis and septic shock. Women with STDs are also at a greater risk for ectopic pregnancies, where the pregnancy isn’t located in the uterus.  Undetected, an ectopic pregnancy can lead to serious complications.

Like with any major medical procedure, it’s essential that you have a full picture of the potential risks and side effects of abortion, especially if there’s a chance you might have an STD or STI.

Schedule your appointment today!  


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Note:  BsideU tests for Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and Trichomonas Vaginalis

Plan B vs. Abortion Pill


Is it possible you are pregnant? Your period is late,you feel nauseous, and your breasts are tender. Yes, those are all possible pregnancy symptoms.If being pregnant was not something you had in mind, you are probably looking into your options.

Somewhere you heard about a pill that can make it “all go away.” Unfortunately, you do not know which pill to take. Plan B? The Abortion Pill? Is there even a difference? Here are some facts about both.

Plan B

If you have heard commercials or people talking about the “morning-after” or the “day-after pill,” they are talking about Plan B. Plan B uses the hormone levonorgestrel to change your cervix. This hormone makes it harder for sperm to reach the uterus and harder for a fertilized egg to attach.

Plan B One-Step is promoted as emergency contraception, but there is a catch! According to the FDA, it works three different ways:

Plan B acts primarily by stopping the release of an egg from the ovary (ovulation). It may prevent the union of sperm and egg (fertilization). If fertilization does occur, Plan B may prevent a fertilized egg from attaching to the womb (implantation). (Source:  FDA Info)

So, to prevent the egg from releasing or the sperm from fertilizing the egg (true “contraception”), the timing of the Plan B matters.  If fertilization has already happened that means you have a fetus in your womb and Plan B may prevent implantation – arguably a form of abortion.  (Source:  Plan B as Abortifacient)    If the egg has implanted before you take the pill, Plan B will not work.

For Plan B to really be effective, manufacturers suggest you take the pill no more than 72 hours after unprotected sex.

The side effects of Plan B 

As with any drugs you take, you need to be aware of possible side effects. Some of the most common ones for Plan B are:

  • Headache and possible dizziness
  • Nausea
  • Fatigue
  • A delay in your cycle and a change in your menstrual flow (usually heavier)

Abortion Pill

The abortion pill method is known as a medical or chemical abortion. This type of abortion must be performed before the 10th week of pregnancy. It is a two-step process, not just one pill.Before you can have the procedure, you must have an ultrasound. The ultrasound gives you real-time information such as how far along you are and if your pregnancy is viable (a heartbeat is detected). If you are farther than about nine or ten weeks, this non-surgical option is not available to you according to FDA guidelines.

After having an ultrasound, you will be given the first pill, Mifepristone (Mifeprex®), in the clinic. This pill blocks the hormone progesterone commonly referred to as the “pregnancy hormone.” The drug causes the lining of the uterus to thin and prevents the fetus from staying implanted.

The second drug, Misoprostol, is taken hours or even days after the first drug. Once taken, it causes the uterus to start contracting to expel the fetus.

The side effects of the Abortion Pill

Abortion is a serious medical decision and should be discussed thoroughly with a healthcare physician. It often has lifelong emotional, psychological, and sometimes physical consequences. Here are the most common side effects for the abortion pill:

  • Heavy bleeding and cramping as your uterus contracts to expel the fetus
  • Nausea and vomiting
  • Fever
  • Diarrhea

Comparing the Two

As you can see, Plan B and the abortion pill method are very different from one another. The abortion pill terminates an existing pregnancy. Plan B attempts to prevent pregnancy before fertilization occurs. Before you can choose either of these methods, you need more information about your pregnancy.

What You Should Do 

The first thing you should do if you are facing an unplanned pregnancy is contact BsideU For Life. Start with free and confidential pregnancy testing. If we confirm your pregnancy, we can possibly schedule a free ultrasound, too. We also recommend you get STI/STD testing and possible treatment at our clinic. Afterward, you can sit down with one of our trained client advocates for a confidential consultation. Together, we will review all your test results and discuss your life situation and the options you have. You are not alone. We want to help you.

Is Abortion Pill Reversal Real?


The answer, very simply, is “yes.” It is possible to reverse the effects of the first drug taken in a chemical abortion (commonly called “the abortion pill”). However, there are some factors a woman and her doctor need to take into consideration. Choosing any type of abortion is a serious medical decision. Whenever you take pills that make a significant change to your body, there are possible consequences.

What is the Abortion Pill?

The abortion pill method is a two-step process that uses drugs to terminate a pregnancy that is less than 10 weeks gestated. The first pill, Mifepristone (Mifeprex®) is administered in a doctor’s office or abortion clinic.
This drug blocks the hormone progesterone, the “pregnancy hormone.” Progesterone helps the fertilized egg implant in the uterus. Mifepristone causes the lining of the uterus to thin so the fetus can no longer stay implanted.

After taking this drug, a woman is given the correct dosage of the second drug, Misoprostol, to take at home. Misoprostol causes the uterus to contract, expelling the fetus. Generally, a woman takes Misoprostol hours or even days after the first drug.

How Does Abortion Pill Reversal (APR) Work?

After taking the first drug, if a woman has changed her mind, she can possibly reverse its effects. The abortion pill reversal (APR) process involves flooding the pregnant woman’s system with progesterone, either with pills or injections.

Timing is everything. Studies suggest that progesterone should be given within 24 hours after a woman has taken the first pill, Mifepristone. APR will not work after the second drug, Misoprostol, has been taken.

Is Abortion Pill Reversal Safe?

Progesterone is a natural hormone and has been used to support pregnancies for decades. Through abortion pill reversal, medical professionals estimate they have been able to save 64 – 68% of pregnancies. Of course, that also means approximately 35% still lose their babies. Doctors do agree that neither Mifepristone nor progesterone is associated with birth defects.

How Do I Get the Abortion Pill Reversal?

Because there are risks with any abortion, it’s vital to be under a doctor’s supervision. Clinics and doctors should always inform a patient that a procedure they are about to perform is permanent. In some states, abortion clinics are required to inform their patients that there is an abortion pill reversal option. However, many other clinics do not mention APR.

If you or someone you know has taken the first drug for a chemical abortion, but has changed their minds, they need to contact a physician immediately. There is a 24-hour, nurse-staffed hotline you can call, The Abortion Pill Reversal Hotline, at 1-877-558-0333. You can also visit them online at www.abortionpillreversal.com.

Contact BsideU for Life for more information

If you are feeling overwhelmed about an unplanned pregnancy and would like to talk with someone about your options, BsideU for Life is available. Many of the women at BsideU for life have been in the same situation. We understand.

All our services are free and confidential, so you have nothing to lose by coming to us. We have two locations. Call us at 502-589-9400 or fill out our form online, and we will contact you as soon as possible.

What’s the Difference Between a Medical and Surgical Abortion?


No matter what type of abortion a woman has, it is a serious procedure. When you introduce different drugs or surgical instruments into your body, you always run risks. Get the facts and be fully informed about the methods, effects, and risks of abortion. Let us help you make the best choice for you, your body, and your unplanned pregnancy.

An ultrasound

Before you can have an abortion, you need to have an ultrasound. An ultrasound is a non-invasive procedure that uses sound waves to create an image of what’s going on inside your uterus. It gives you real-time information. You’ll know how far along you are in your pregnancy, where the pregnancy is located, and if it is viable (a heartbeat is detected). Knowing how far along a woman is in her pregnancy determines which type of abortion she will have. Medical abortions are usually performed within the first nine or ten weeks. If you’ve been pregnant longer, you would need a surgical abortion.

Medical Abortion

The abortion pill, also called RU-486, is known as a medical abortion. Rather than taking one pill, it’s actually a two-step process. The first pill, Mifepristone (Mifeprex®) is administered in a doctor’s office or medical clinic. This drug blocks the hormone progesterone. Progesterone is known as the “pregnancy hormone.” It helps the fertilized egg implant in the uterus. The first drug, Mifepristone, thins the lining of the uterus and prevents the fetus from staying implanted. Misoprostol is the drug that causes the uterus to contract, expelling the fetus. Generally, a woman takes Misoprostol hours or even days after the first drug at home.

Side Effects of the Abortion Pill

It is illegal to purchase the abortion pill online, so visiting your doctor or a clinic is necessary. It’s essential to have supervision when you consider the risks and side effects. Here are a few to be aware of:

  • Heavy bleeding
  • Severe abdominal or back pain
  • Nausea and possible vomiting
  • Ongoing fever
  • In some cases, infertility
  • Possible risk of a pelvic infection
  • Emotional and psychological effects such as guilt, shame, and sadness

If you have an IUD, take a blood thinner, or have specific medical issues like kidney or lung disease, or a seizure disorder, do not have a medical abortion.

Surgical Abortion

There are two types of surgical abortions: an aspiration abortion and dilation and evacuation (D & E) abortion. The most common one is aspiration abortion, which is performed up to 15 weeks. After 15 weeks, a woman would need to have a D & E abortion.

 Aspiration Abortion (also known as vacuum aspiration)

The procedure begins with a numbing medication injected into the cervix. Next, the doctor inserts an instrument known as a speculum into the woman’s uterus. The cervix is dilated or stretched open either before or during the procedure. A tube is inserted, which is attached to a suction device. After suctioning out the uterus, the doctor will check to make sure it is completely empty.

Dilation and Evacuation (D & E) Abortion

This procedure begins the same way. The doctor applies a numbing medication and dilates the cervix. Again, a tube attached to a suction machine is inserted to empty the uterus. After removing the suction tube, the doctor uses a metal loop-shaped tool called a curette to scrape out any remaining tissue to ensure the uterus is completely empty.

As you can see, there are obviously several risks and side effects to expect with surgical abortion. Here are a few:

  • Heavy bleeding, including blood clots
  • Intense cramping
  • Nausea and vomiting
  • Sweating and feeling faint
  • Fever
  • Possible risk of pelvic infection, tearing of the cervix, uterine perforation, or hemorrhaging
  • Emotional and psychological side effects such as depression, guilt, shame

Let the staff of BsideU For Life help you work through this critical decision. You don’t have to make this choice alone. We offer free, confidential pregnancy testing. If you qualify, we can schedule you for a free ultrasound too. Discovering an unplanned pregnancy can be terrifying. Get the information you need to make the best choice for you and your body. Contact us today.

Can I Buy the Abortion Pill Online?

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It’s so simple to buy things online and have them shipped to your door. From electronics, to beauty supplies, to healthcare products, it seems everything is available online. Plus, ordering online is convenient and anonymous, so you don’t have to worry about anyone asking questions.  In the age of the worldwide Covid19 pandemic it also seems like a viable solution, right?

So should you order the abortion pill online?

Ordering the Abortion Pill Online Isn’t Worth It

Considering an online abortion pill purchase?  You should know what seems easy may not be worth the cost to your health and your future.

Because of the powerful drugs contained in the abortion pill and the reaction it creates in your body, the FDA has strict guidelines regarding who can manufacture the pill and how it is prescribed.

As a result, the online sellers of the abortion pill are usually questionable companies who don’t have permission to make or sell the abortion pill–they are only looking for a quick buck.

Because the sales are not approved and are oftentimes illegal, any abortion pill you order online lacks safety and dosage guarantees. This can lead to severe and dangerous medical complications that could require professional medical attention. Without proper dosage the abortion pill bought online may not effectively terminate your pregnancy, requiring a follow-up surgical abortion.  In fact, a study published in the British Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology found that 11% of users needed follow-up  surgical procedures, for either incomplete abortions or excessive bleeding. 

When buying from an online source, you are not only violating FDA guidelines and putting your health at risk, you could be potentially making an illegal purchase as well, which might carry legal implications for you in the future.

Ordering the Abortion Pill Online Is Not Worth the Health Risk

The FDA considers the abortion pill to be a serious medical product, requiring it only be prescribed under the supervision of a certified healthcare provider. 

The healthcare professional will ensure that you are a candidate to receive the abortion pill.  How?   Confirming how far along the pregnancy is, and using an ultrasound to make sure that yours is not an ectopic pregnancy. An ectopic pregnancy is a serious condition which can not be addressed with the abortion pill.  Ectopic pregnancy requires medical attention as soon as possible to protect you from dangerous and life-threatening complications.

After the ultrasound, the healthcare provider should also ask you a series of questions to make sure any medical history or current treatments won’t create complications with the abortion pill. They should also ask you if you are using an intrauterine device (IUD), which would need to be removed before the abortion pill is prescribed.

During the course of treatment from the abortion pill, medical supervision is also important to monitor for side effects, which may be serious and complicated.   Let’s face it — addressing complications and side effects quickly can only happen with the help of an involved healthcare provider.  This at least potentially protects you from life threatening issues, or ones that may affect your long-term health.  Otherwise — you risk facing them alone and at home, with no one to turn to.  

The FDA takes the quality and prescription of the abortion pill very seriously, and so should you, that’s why you shouldn’t put your health in the hands of shady online companies promising cheap fixes. 

Whether an abortion is in your future is a tough decision in the midst of a crisis, let alone hastily getting it through dangerous and regulated chemicals provided by unreliable online sources.  You deserve the best supportive, nonjudgmental care from providers who will listen to everything you face.  So your first step when you find out you are pregnant, or think you might be pregnant, is to schedule an appointment with BsideU.  We can provide the testing and information you need to make the very best decision for your health and future.

Healthy Weight Gain for Pregnancy

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Most doctors will tell you that you can gain anywhere between 25-30 pounds throughout your pregnancy. You should aim to gain about 3.5 pounds during your first trimester, although more often than not most women find that they lose weight their first trimester. The reason for weight loss is simple: morning sickness. Some women suffer from such a severe case of morning sickness they can’t keep anything down. Chances are your doctor won’t be too concerned if you lose a few pounds that first trimester as long as you gain steady throughout the next two trimesters.

Your second trimester is where you will probably put on most of your weight.  Most women put on about a pound a week, so roughly four or five pounds a month which brings their second-trimester weight gain to about 12-15 pounds. Of course, some women put on more while others put on less. Don’t be surprised if you put on a lot of weight one month and not so much your next.

For the 7th and 8th month you will probably continue gaining about a pound each week or so. Look to gain between 8 and 10 pounds those months. Most women find that their weight gain slows down in the 9th month. You might find your weight gain coming to an end as your due date draws nearer. This can be a sign that labor is near. Or, you may find that your weight gain continues especially if you are retaining a lot of water.

So where does all this weight go? It doesn’t really make sense that you should gain between 25-30 pounds if your baby is only going to weigh between 7 and 8 pounds.

First, you have your baby. An average baby weighs about 7 1/2 pounds. Some can weigh more and some weigh less. That amniotic fluid that your baby has been swimming in for the past nine months weighs about 2 pounds. Figure in about 2 pounds for your breast enlargement and 1 1/2 pounds for your placenta. Your uterus, which started off about the size of a golf ball has grown to weigh about 2 pounds. Your body should be producing about 4 pounds of extra blood by the end of your pregnancy and about 7 extra pounds of fat. Let’s not forget the extra fluid of about 4 pounds that your body might be holding on to. All this equals to the grand total of about 30 pounds.

Now keep in mind this is just an estimate and not a guarantee of how your weight will increase. There are women who wind up having a 10-pound baby and others who have a 5-pound baby. The key is to maintain a healthy weight gain throughout your pregnancy. Your body needs extra calories and it is best for you and your baby if those extra calories come from food that has a lot of nutritional value such as fruits, vegetables or protein. Staying away from junk for will help you curb your weight gain.

When it comes to taking the weight off, don’t be surprised if your body hangs on to it especially those first weeks delivery. Most women still look pregnant for a few weeks after delivery. This is normal. Once you are home, keep this in mind that it took nine months to gain that weight so give yourself at least a good nine months to take it off.

What You Should Know About Your Unplanned Pregnancy

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Here’s what every woman should know when she looks down and sees the two parallel lines on a positive result that she didn’t plan on:

You’re Not Alone

Nearly half (or 45%) of the 6.1 million pregnancies in the United States are unintended pregnancies. That’s over 2.8 million pregnancies that weren’t planned.

Of those unintended pregnancies, some are “mistimed,” meaning a woman wants to be pregnant eventually, just not right now. And some are unwanted pregnancies, meaning a woman never wanted or intended to be pregnant.

You’re definitely not alone. You’re not “stupid,” you’re not an “idiot,” and you’re not at fault. Things just happen.

Your Life Isn’t Over

When some women find out they’re unexpectedly pregnant, a few “acquaintances” and people who aren’t a regular part of their life may say that their “life is over”. They won’t be able to continue with their career. They wouldn’t be able to have the social life they had come to enjoy. They wouldn’t be able to do much of anything at all if it didn’t involve staying home and taking care of the baby.

What an outdated way of thinking. Plenty of women have children, work, spend time with friends, go outside of their homes and life fulfilled, well-rounded lives.

It’s Not A Mistake

An unplanned pregnancy isn’t a mistake nor does it have to be considered a mistake. Pregnancy happens. You can do everything “right” and take all the birth control that is available, and still get pregnant.

It happens when a man and woman engage in sexual activity. It’s not a mistake because it’s no one’s fault. You’re not to blame. Your partner or the person who contributed to this unplanned pregnancy isn’t to blame.

Because You Have Options

An unplanned pregnancy isn’t the end of the world or the end of your life or a mistake, because you have options for the birth of the child.

You may not be ready to raise a child.

Adoption is an option. There are many families waiting to love and raise the child you are carrying.

It’s Okay If You’re Not Excited

The initial reaction to your unplanned pregnancy has no bearing on the kind of mother you are going to be.

Many women are scared, confused, unsure and almost sad when they learned they were pregnant. Now? Now their child is happy, healthy and thriving. You won’t be a bad mother just because your first reaction to being pregnant isn’t “Yippee!” Big, life-changing moments deserve and often require a moment of pause, reflection, and even a dash of understandable fear.

It Can Be Shocking And Scary

Make no mistake, we’re talking about pregnancy, here. We’re talking about parenthood. We’re talking about a life-long commitment. That is a big deal.

It’s overwhelming and it’s okay if you’re shocked and scared. You’re under no obligation to pretend to be happy just because you’re a woman and just because you’re pregnant.

This is your life, and it will be your life that changes. You get to feel whatever it is you want and need and end up feeling.

BSideU For Life is here to offer you the emotional and spiritual support … and space … you may need to simply begin the process of accepting and adjusting to the news that you’re pregnant.

You’re Allowed To Be Excited, Even If You Didn’t Plan Your Pregnancy

Of course, at the same time, you don’t have to feel upset or scared if that’s not your initial reaction, either. If you’re super happy and excited, be super happy and excited! Because, whatever you feel is normal, valid, and worthy of being expressed.

This is your experience to live, and no one else gets to live it for you.

You Don’t Have To Explain How You Got Pregnant

You don’t have to go to into detail about failed birth control or condoms or diaphragms or IUDs or whatever else. It’s no one’s business. Everyone knows how babies are made. There’s no need to explain how you ended up pregnant.

Learn more about the various services we offer at BSideU for Life. Just give us a call or stop by.


Caffeine and Pregnancy – How Much is Too Much

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One of the first things most women prepare to say goodbye to once we see a positive pregnancy test result is caffeine.  Many women will stop their caffeine habit cold turkey out of the sheer fear of doing some sort of damage to the new life growing inside of them. These women will swear off anything that has caffeine in it from coffee, and soda to even chocolate. Then there are some who will still drink caffeine but cut back. Instead of drinking five cups of coffee a day,  cut back to at least one cup of coffee to get us through the day.

Our mothers and grandmothers will likely tell us that they drank the same amount of caffeine pregnant as they did when they were not pregnant and their children turned out fine. However, a lot more research has been done since their time and studies are showing that too much caffeine can cause some complications such as preterm labor and/or low birth weight.

So how much caffeine is too much caffeine?

Doctors are telling their patients that a moderate amount of caffeine will not harm their babies. Even though caffeine does cross the placenta, anything less than 300 milligrams a day (an 8-ounce cup of strong coffee) will not do any harm.

Anything over 300 milligrams puts your baby at risk and studies have also shown that women who drink more than 300 milligrams of caffeine a day during their first trimester have a slightly higher risk of a miscarriage.

Studies have also shown that women who had over 500 milligrams of caffeine a day had babies who had faster heart rates and faster breathing rates. These babies also spent more time awake in their first few days of life rather than peacefully sleeping after their long journey.

There are a number of other reasons why we women might want to cut back on the amount of caffeine we drink during pregnancy.

For starters, it has no nutritional value. If there is ever a time for us to be aware of our nutritional needs it is when we are pregnant.

Second, caffeine is a stimulant which will increase your heart rate and can cause insomnia and headaches which can put some stress on your growing little one.

Third, caffeine can cause heartburn. If you have been pregnant before you know that heartburn can be a burden to begin with, and caffeine just makes it worse.

Lastly, it is a diuretic which means it can cause you to lose fluids which can put you at a risk of becoming dehydrated.

While it’s not necessary for you to give up all caffeine throughout the duration of your pregnancy, you should learn how to drink it in moderation or don’t drink it at all.  If you can’t handle having only one cup of coffee a day, then you might be better off drinking no coffee at all. Stick with caffeine-free sodas and even decaf coffee.